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It’s difficult to take decisions when you feel stuck in your life. You don’t know what is important for you and what are the best decisions for your happiness. You ask yourself a lot of questions but it’s often not the right ones to help you.
Since becoming interested in quarter-life crisis (because I was going through my own), I’ve been reading a lot of blog posts and books. The only one that was really helpful was Twenty Something, Twenty Everything. The reason why this book helped me so much was because it gave me a lot of questions to ask myself. Thanks to this book, I know myself much better now and it’s easier to take good decisions.
Here are 10 questions that really helped me to in self-discovery when I wanted to change my life.
If you want to write down your answers, I’ve created a FREE WORKBOOK with all the questions below!
1- What would be your ideal day?
At what time would you wake up? What would you do every waking hour? With who would you spend your day? And so on…
Be as specific as possible when describing your day. For example, I would wake up at 7 a.m. Then I would eat breakfast and read a personal development book until 8 a.m. At 8:30 a.m, after taking my shower and being prepared, I would sit at my desk to start my work day…
This question will help to know if you want to work alone or in a group, if you want to be a nomad or if you prefer to work at home. It also help you to start to create habits or routines that will allow you to change your life.
2- If money wasn’t an issue, what would you do?
If you had enough money, what would you do during your day?
This question is complementary to the first question. Indeed, in the first question, you have to work to earn money. But what if you didn’t have to? What would you do then?
It’s easy to tell yourself that you will shopping all day but I think it could be very boring at a certain time. So what would be your activities? Would you have some charitable activities? Would you start a blog? Would you travel the world?
3- What is your biggest dream/goal?
This question is really difficult because it’s hard to know what is our biggest goal. But in the goal setting blog post, we saw that a big goal is a life-changing one. It’s maybe to write a book, to create your own company, or to be a mother of 2.
Try to describe what your life would look like if your biggest dream or goal was to become true.
4- What did you enjoy doing when you were a kid?
After becoming an adult, you forget what you liked to do when you were a kid. You forget it because you have to move on, to become responsible and to earn money.
But this question is really important if you want to change your life. Indeed, as a kid in most of time, you don’t think about money and you can do whatever you want during your free time.
Actually it was very important when I asked it myself because I realize that I always enjoy being alone and doing my things. Today, it’s what I’m looking for.
Did you like to see your friends? Did you like writing alone on your bedroom? Did you like to cook with your grandmother?
There are a lot of elements that can help you to know yourself better and maybe give you some ideas for your future.
5- If your life were to end today, what would your biggest regret be?
Ok, it’s a little bit gloomy but it’s necessary!
This question will help you to know what is really important for you. Maybe it’s your career and you would want to have a better position in your company. Or maybe it’s your family because you don’t spend enough time with them. Or maybe it’s something that you really want to do like visiting a country. It will open your eyes so you could plan what you really want to do for the next days or month. But don’t go start being slow again, do it right now!
Actually this question is really stressful for me but it helps me moving on and taking decisions. Thanks to this question, I started spending a lot more quality time with my loved ones and I started this blog.
6- What would you like to have achieved in the future?
Make a list of all the goals and dreams that you want to achieve in a year and put an alarm in one year to see what you’ll have achieved.
If you don’t know how to start to setting goals and achieve them, read this blog post!
7- What are the habits that you want to stop? And these that you want to start?
If you want to change one thing in your life, it will be easier if you start to analyze your habits. The best example is nutrition and exercise. Indeed, you might not have the habit to workout everyday or maybe once a week. But if you start doing it, chances are you will also start looking at food differently and be more conscious of what you eat.
So what habits you want to give up and why? If you have to start one habit, what would it be?
If you’re interested in habits their processes, my advice for you would be to read The Power of Habits.
8- What is your greatest pride?
This question could guide you to a personal quality that will help you to achieve what you want in your life. For example, I’m very proud of passing the university health competition because even it’s not what I want to do right now, I’m convinced that if I was able to study and work that hard, there is nothing I cannot do.
9- What you like to do during your free time?
It’s an easy question but with our lives at 200% it’s difficult to have free time. You maybe enjoy your free time by watching Netflix or scrolling social media.
When you have an entire afternoon for yourself, what do you like to do? Is it sewing? Do you like to learn something new? Maybe your thing is writing or creating something with your hands?
Make a list of all the things that you like to do during your free time (except Netflix binge-watching or doing online shopping ;)).
10- Which aspect of your life makes you feel the best about yourself? And the worst? Why is that ?
You maybe feel very good about your job but your relationships is not exactly what you want?
For example, I’m very happy about my relationships with my friends, my family and my boyfriend but I’m not satisfied with my actual job. Because of that I used to compensate by buying a lot of clothes, so I started not feeling good either regarding how I managed my money. But it will change!
On the diagram of the worksheet, evaluate all the aspects of your life (family, health, work, relationships, financial situation, love, personal growth and spirituality).
Then write down why you put these grades for all the aspects.